Vivian Dorraine Liberto
Vivian Dorraine Liberto
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(Source): Vivian Dorraine
Liberto b 23 Apr 1934 San Antonio, Bexar Co TX d 24 May 2005 Ventura, Ventura Co
CA; buried
Ivy
Lawn Memorial Park, Ventura, Ventura Co CA; d/o
Thomas Peter Liberto
and Irene Robinson.
First wife of
Johnny Cash and to whom the singer pledged to remain faithful in the song "I
Walk the Line." Mother of Rosanne, Kathy, Tara and Cindy Cash. Vivian was the
daughter of Thomas Liberto
and Irene Robinson Liberto. Distin met the man in black at a skating rink in San
Antonio three weeks before the Air Force sent him to Germany in 1950. Married
Johnny Cash in 1954 and divorced him in 1966. After marrying in 1954, the couple
settled in Memphis, Tenn., where Cash worked as a door-to-door appliance
salesman and laid the groundwork for his musical career.
In 1958, they moved to California and bought Johnny Carson's
old house on Hayvenhurst Avenue in Encino, California. Seeking more privacy,
they moved to 12 acres in Casitas Springs, Calif., days after their fourth
daughter was born in 1961 and lived there until their marriage ended. She filed
for divorce in 1966, and married Dick Distin, a police officer, in 1968 and
moved to Ventura. Cash also got married again, to country singer
June Carter, in 1968.
Vivian spent her marriage to Johnny trying to get him sober. Vivian believed in
her heart of hearts that if Johnny had never gotten involved in drugs, they
would have remained married. The two remained friends until Johnny's death in
2003. Vivian died as a result of surgery for lung cancer at age 71. She died on
her daughter Rosanne's 50th birthday. She is survived by her husband, her four
daughters, three step-children, 16 grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.
Rosanne Cash on Her Mother:
She created an exceptionally warm home. There was always food and flowers and
friends in her house. She made an art of being a friend. She showed up if you
were sick or in the hospital, or sad or lonely, or needed any little thing, and
she was rewarded with a breathtaking amount of return loyalty and respect. On
her last birthday, she got nearly 50 birthday cards--from close friends. She had
friends of all ages, all walks of life, all income brackets and all
personalities. She maintained friendships with several of my old friends from
high school, some of whom I myself lost touch with, but she kept them in her
circle and kept me informed of their lives. She was a flame of love and warmth,
and many, many people flocked to her.
She also had an innocence that was uncommon in the modern
world. Her codes of behavior were simple, but well defined, and she could not
understand the bad manners and lack of integrity in modern society. She had a
deep faith, and was a staunch Catholic from birth to death. I admire that
quality of knowing who she was, and acting in a way that served that knowledge,
and her Catholicism was central to her understanding of herself.
She was a great hostess. She loved to entertain, and she
hosted more parties than I can begin to recall. She created such a welcome
environment, that when I was in high school, my friends preferred hanging out at
my house to any other place. It was quite annoying at times. My mother was a
genius in that way. She made home so comfortable that there was no need to go
out, and most of the time she knew exactly where I was. She was strict. She had
no patience with the democratic parenting style that is so popular today.
She ruled our home, and our young lives, and that was that. No
back talk, no negotiation. The rules were clear, and transgressions were dealt
with firmly. My friend Peggy and I once skipped school and took off for Mexico
with a couple of boys when we were seniors in high school. I told my mother I
was spending the weekend at Peggy's house. My mother discovered the truth before
the weekend was over, and I was grounded for months. It did not matter that I
was about to turn eighteen. I was grounded until nearly that moment. I wrecked
my car once and she insisted that I pay for the repairs myself. So, I got a job
as a waitress at the age of 16, and saved the money, and paid to get my car
fixed. (My father, much more lenient, had given me the car for my 16th birthday,
something that my mother probably disapproved of, but she was silent at the
time--also very wise of her).
My mother could do just about anything with her hands—sew,
crochet, knit, needlepoint, arrange flowers, make homemade chocolate candy (she
was famous for this among family and friends), bake, paint and make her own
stationery. She was a one-woman crafts market/bakery/candy store/flower
stall/knit-wear boutique. I was cleaning out closets this past weekend and kept
pulling out blankets she had crocheted for me. Whenever someone announced a
wedding or a pregnancy, she would begin to crochet. She made doll blankets for
my girls and a big blue and white quilt when I married John, and a blanket for
every baby and special occasion. And she never stopped making things, up until
the moment she died.
A few days after she went into the hospital for her last
illness, I received an enormous box of her homemade chocolates. She had spent
the week before surgery making chocolates for my birthday, and she had my
step-dad ship them out while she was in intensive care. I could tell you
more--about her love of a bargain, her 24-pound turkeys at Thanksgiving, her
passion for Asian design and zebra prints, her love of music and dancing (both
line and ballroom), her nervousness about weather and travel, her two tiny dogs
named Rambo and Chico, and her kitchen full of bells and whistles. She was quite
a woman: full of life, with an easy laugh and a deep love for the people around
her, particularly her grandchildren.
Her doctor told me after her death that there were some
patients you just remember all your life, and he said that my mom would be one
for him. He said he would never forget her and the intense, territorial love of
her family. I don't think he had ever seen so many close relatives—husband,
daughters, sister, grandchildren, sons-in-laws, plus a few dear friends and the
parish priest—crowd into one woman's room day after day, following every tiny
aspect of her care, and finally letting her go with so much overwhelming sadness
that the nurses in the unit also broke down in tears.
Sadly, Vivian's brother Ray (Raymond Alvin "Wildman" Liberto) passed away May 23, 2008.
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